Bus Ride Home

Bus Ride Home

The sunlight tickled my left eyebrow, as I lay my heavy head deeper into the fur hood of my winter coat. It was almost as if the golden light was grazing my face with its fingertips, causing me to wince and sneeze a little. Allergies. 

I sense the middle-aged woman behind me flinch ever so slightly as I shudder from my sneeze, and I apologize in my mind, ‘Sorry woman, but don’t worry, I don’t have Corona,’ then I catch myself thinking, ‘-but I might as well, if every other day of my life turns out as miserable as this one,’ But of course, it’s just a split-second thought, I’d never die because I’m too weak and too strong at the same time. On days like this, a woman’s got to remind herself that there are things to live for and live by, there are tasks to be done, there are people to be met and dreams to be ravished and places to be conquered and- 

-my phone shudders too, I frown as I grudgingly pull it out of my coat pocket, careful as so not to pull too hard on the wire(wireless earphones just don’t make sense to me – or so I tell myself whenever I check my card receipts every now and then), and I raise my eyebrows intentionally as I read- ‘Konni Kim. here’s the password. Bye.’ I mean, three years together and that’s how we’re going to address each other now that we’re done? Come on, this isn’t 1970. 

It sucks enough that I had to ask my ex for the password to our joint webdrive, but what sucks more is having to rummage through 9,476 haunting files to pick out my own photos from the stack of remains of what used to be a relationship. Why is it that love makes us do stupid things like share a fucking webdrive? Never making that mistake again. 

Love sucks, I think as I try to push out any recurring images of him with his new girlfriend, telling myself it’s over and it’s not worth it, it’s not like you were going to marry him in the end anyways, it was a tied up knotted no-good situation and this was going to happen one way or another, but then all the ‘what if’ arguments start boring a hole in my head, asking me ‘what if you had somehow held on’ and ‘what if you had been a better person’ and-

-my misery debate is interrupted by the announcement of the bus telling me I’m home. 

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People in Masks

People in masks

Konni Kim

Faces are covered, but they don’t warn each other

Of what is to come, they just simply become

Unattached from the bone, the chorus is telling

Us to come home, but the night is so young and

it ‘s safer out here, it’s divided by fear

But when people are scared, of life more than death

Of him more than her, of them more than I

Then what is the use, they beg to let loose 

Point the finger, you lose 

Because they’re human too

#Corona

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Changes

There do need to be some changes in my life. I mean doing things I actually love. Simply put, doing less of the meaningless things and more of what I find meaning in. 


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I used to think ‘changes’ meant transforming my environment. Getting rid of exterior things like people that didn’t really serve much purpose to me(ouch), looking for a better job, transforming the way I look. But I came to realize that those things, although they may help, can only be refreshing for a certain period of time. What’s really mind-changing, life-changing, is people and love and passion. 

I always loved stories. Especially stories of people. I loved to be able to place myself in someone else’s shoes for even a little while, and it would give me an exciting sense of liberation that nothing else in the world could offer. I was more interested in the decisions people made throughout their lives and what events influenced them to make those decisions, rather than the things that they owned as a result of those decisions. Stories are a continuous process, not a result. 

However I am sometimes blinded by expectations. In my life, people have always expected a lot from me. I also always expected a lot from myself. I expected a lot of success, a lot of money, a lot of experience, and a lot of love. I could feel my own greed outgrowing my skin, as I struggled between school, jobs, trips, friends, the social scene, family issues, lovers, and more jobs. I needed the crazy nights as much as I needed the part time jobs, and I couldn’t let go of school but I did still want to do my own projects outside of the restricting boundaries of a school curriculum. Although it took time to admit it was a sort of abusion, I now definitely see that it was an unhealthy process of self-harm.

Me dancing with a completely random dude at a boat party.

However I am sometimes blinded by expectations. In my life, people have always expected a lot from me. I also always expected a lot from myself. I expected a lot of success, a lot of money, a lot of experience, and a lot of love. I could feel my own greed outgrowing my skin, as I struggled between school, jobs, trips, friends, the social scene, family issues, lovers, and more jobs. I needed the crazy nights as much as I needed the part time jobs, and I couldn’t let go of school but I did still want to do my own projects outside of the restricting boundaries of a school curriculum. Although it took time to admit it was a sort of abusion, I now definitely see that it was an unhealthy process of self-harm.

Ibiza taught me about happiness. For most of my recent years, I was on a quest to be as superior as I could. Better grades, better looks, a better paycheck. But Ibiza truly liberated me. I remember one of the waiters in a restaurant in Coco Beach referring to us as ‘friend’, laughing with us and trying his best to communicate to us using a language that he wasn’t even obligated to use. Cashiers paying us extra compliments even though they got nothing out of it. People at clubs, on the beach, taking the time to simply make conversation just for the sake of it. ‘Where do they get the energy?’ I thought. As a student with many jobs in Seoul, I never had the spare energy to look around or even care about my surroundings. It was hard enough trying to take care of myself, but now I think, ‘What for?’ If I’m miserable at the end of the day, when will I ever be successful enough to make myself happy?

Coco Beach, Ibiza. The food was great but the waiters were pure gold.

Humor, humility, and sincerity are all things that I overlooked because I was too proud to admit to myself that I was not the superwoman I once dreamed of being. I was afraid to let go of that extra job, and it killed me inside to fail another class because I was forcing myself to multitask day and night. Eventually everything became stressful, even the things I love. 

Bora Bora, Ibiza.

Now I carry the spirit of Ibiza in my heart. I know that the fun-loving, energetic girl is inside me somewhere. I need to make sure her voice isn’t muffled by the noise of daily life. This means doing more of what I love; less of what I don’t actually give a — about from the bottom of my heart. It means I need to slow down, and not beat myself up whenever I realize that even I can’t do five things at once. I need to love myself more, and know how to make fun of myself but also be my own best fan at the same time.

What I’ve been up to

It’s great to be back.

There are certain periods in people’s lives where they realize that they are powerful, or weak, deserving, or under-qualified. Maybe there comes a time when you make your first ‘big break’, or your second and third, and maybe it all becomes boring. There will also be months where you feel beaten down, and nothing seems to be in place and no one is worth your trust.

I feel like I’ve been through a couple of phases during the two years I’ve been away from blogging. Some ups and downs, some triumphs and losses. More realizations and new beginnings.

I’ve closed some doors – I learned that maybe I’m not in the place to be a research assistant for neither Korean Hanbok nor negotiation studies. Recently I’m also coming to the conclusion that I’m not interested in making my own clothes, either. I’d rather draw, create images, or curate looks. After all, I’ve always been in love with the editorial side of art rather than the actual creation process. Some new doors have opened too – I’m working to plan and curate parties here in Seoul! It’s going great, I’m working with a great team and the best venues (will post more about this soon).

I’m not much of a past-dweller, but I feel like whenever life confuses me I go back to my roots and my young self. I need to remind myself once in a while that I am naturally OK. Innately strong and passionate, and good, and fierce. I recall stories of me as a kid, fearless and always up for a challenge. They say the most important thing for anyone is believing in themselves, but it seems like it’s also the hardest thing.

I’m back because I realized that at the end of the day this is the outlet and platform where I’m most ME. I can let loose and still be good at it. I can stay up all night contacting brands or potential interviewees and write for hours yet actually stay happy. That’s the most important thing, right?

So yes, I’m back for good and I’m ready now to create even better stuff to share!

At last, I’m off to study fashion

At last, I’m off to study fashion at S- University in Seoul, South Korea.

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Most of you readers would probably know (or, at least, have gotten the idea) that I want to work in and change fashion. Truth is, I’ve wanted to become a fashion magazine editor-in-chief ever since I was fourteen. To me, as a student of two of the most prestigious international middle schools and foreign language high schools in Korea, ‘the fashion world’ always seemed like a faraway utopia. It was the path untaken and therefore, considered unsafe and, in a sense, unrecommended.

But, working on this blog, I proved to myself that fashion is for me and I am all for fashion. My readers gave me faith through their unwavering support, and that faith was enough for me to justify my applying to university to major in the study of fashion.

And now, thanks to you, thanks to everyone I’ve interviewed and worked with/interviewed me, thanks to everyone that’s encouraged me to take the reins in my life and steer myself toward a future that I know in my guts I’ve craved for a long time, I find myself here, a proud to-be-fashion major university student.

I plan to work my ass off (sorry for the crude language, but it’s the most accurate figurative term I can think of to describe the raw, honest attitude in which I will strive to do my best) to become the most passionate, brilliant fashion magazine editor-in-chief the fashion industry has ever witnessed.

Thanks for accompanying me on this delightfully wild journey. : )

Here’s a puppy.

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I sneaked backstage at a fashion show!

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Ever felt the urge to break into the backstage of a fashion show and see what on earth goes on behind that runway? Well, worry no more-I’ve done it for you. And I didn’t get caught.

Behind the scenes; behind the spotlight

As some of you already know, for the past few months, I’ve been working for Korea Style Week, which is the more accessible, B2B(buyer-to-buyer) version of Seoul Fashion Week. This season’s Style Week took place in COEX(in Gangnam, Seoul) a few days ago, and I was invited(obviously, I worked for them). I’ve been to Korea Style Week a few times before, once two years ago having to sneak out during class to see the Korean designer Ko Tae yong (see post by young Konni about it here). I’ve evolved a lot since then, since I no longer have to sneak around to go to fashion events lest people should mock (everyone close to me now is very supportive of my fashion career). BUT on Sunday, I had the chance to feel that tingling feeling of secretly tiptoeing around to get a more intimate glimpse into fashion. I sneaked backstage during the Korea Style Week runway show!

I figured if I got caught I could pull out the ‘I worked for the Korea Style Week blog!’ card, although I think even so I wasn’t supposed to actually go backstage during the fashion shows.

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(this was the entrance.)

Okay, deep breath, I tell myself. This is going to be a fun adventure! I’ll just keep exploring until I get kicked out. After all, no one in the fashion world succeeds by following the rules, if there even are any, right? The moment I entered, I just saw a bunch of makeup artists lounging around with their phones, looking pretty bored. I walked past them, nodding and smiling as if to say ‘yeah, I’m just one of you guys, keep working, don’t mind me!’ (They stared for a while, probably because judging from my shortness and chubbiness they made out that I wasn’t one of the models, but I didn’t look chic enough to be one of the designers, so who was I? But they turned back to their phones.)

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(backstage. succeeded in entering without looking too weird.)

The first thing I noticed backstage was the models. Oh what beautiful, unrealistic creatures models are.

No matter how lovely, unique, or bursting with personality a model is, there’s one collective aura that they all share in common, and that’s the aura of intimidation. Even though it’s not the first time I’ve talked to a real live one(yes, the nuance IS that they’re a different species) I can’t help but give away my nervousness in the subtle tremor of my voice or my awkward smile as I ask for them to pose for a photo. Physical traits do certainly influence human interaction, I think, as I bend my knees, tilting my head to eye those long limbs through an old Canon Rebel.

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(models running around in heels, backstage. pretty artistic shot, no?)

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(It was scary to even ask them to pose; they were all at least 20cms taller than me in those heels)

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(a model making sure she’s ready to get on stage. I wonder how it would feel to look in the mirror when you’re a model. I wonder if they look at themselves and take their bodies apart, criticizing themselves for their physical flaws like most of us do.)

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Overall it was pretty hectic; after all, the main objective here is to GET THE MODELS ON STAGE, ON TIME, LOOKING FLAWLESS. No one really payed much attention to me because they were all busy doing their own thing, playing their part to keep the show running. It’s not as glamorous a process as I thought it would be.

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(the runway seems a lot more accessible and familiar from this perspective. Just a few stairs and you’re on the magical fashion pedestal.)

When the models are all lined up and the show starts to heat up, it gets quieter backstage because everyone’s so focused on monitoring the show. The director was constantly running to and fro, waving a bunch of papers with the show schedule and details around. She had a pretty intense look on her face, and she was busy talking to each person about precisely what they were supposed to do at exactly what time.

But of course, none of this frenzy is reflected on the actual runway. All we usually get to see is the models calmly doing the catwalk, looking like they’ve got their stuff together.

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(The outfits were colorful and totally weird, but I like weird.)

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(and then there are the people that have to sit and take care of all the digital stuff, lighting, sound, photography etc.)

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After getting a few shots of the models and the people that do all the digital, techno-work (bless those people! no one ever seems to notice them but they work so hard to put important parts of the fashion show together), I wandered around to observe everything else.

A box filled with ‘밥버거'(rice burgers; a pretty popular snack/meal here in Korea. They’re literally burgers with rice instead of bread.) at the entrance raised my eyebrows; I thought models didn’t eat fatty foods, especially during show season. But then a scene from The September Issue where a pin-thin model cheekily looks at the camera during a shoot and eats pie(pie! The ultimate carb-filled, gluten-loaded, evil food! I’m being sarcastic.) comes to mind, reminding me that we’re all human and should all be let off the hook to eat whatever we want sometimes. (And I enjoyed that thought as I munched on my Burger King burger after the show. I have an unhealthy relationship with their long chicken burger.)

I was trying to get a shot of the rice burgers to show you guys when I was interrupted by something much more intriguing-A BACKSTAGE MODEL FIGHT! Well, okay, it wasn’t a fight, it was just a conflict. But I was still excited. I witnessed a model surrounded by girls, shouting to another model across the corridor about something related to the sequence that they were supposed to do on the runway. The atmosphere turned from hectic and lively to serious-mode, and I heard some of the staff trying to figure out what to do with the runway sequence. “We can’t have the lights turn off without the model on stage!”, I remember the stage director saying. I’d imagined model fights to be much more physical or loud, but from my experience(of sitting around on the big black electric sound boxes(amplifiers?) for an hour or so-yeah, I know, such a foundation to judge) conflicts backstage were more…civilized.

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Amid the messy stacks of clothes and hangers and personal belongings of staff members, there was another large group of humans, other than models, that intimidated me. The designers. These were the people that I was actually dying to talk to, rather than the models. I love talking to people about their creative process and inspiration for their craft; believe me, talking to someone about their art really reveals a lot about a person’s life values and perspectives. However, as busy as they were, they looked so immersed in the show, making sure their creations were properly represented to the public eye, that I just couldn’t get myself to pop their ‘bubble’ of concentration. What I did get to to, though, was ask a designer for a photo and exchange blog addresses! Hopefully I’ll get to properly have a separate conversation with her soon.

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(designers dress fabulously, obviously.)

As thrilling and exciting being backstage a fashion show is, sneaking around gets exhausting after a while. I went out to enjoy the many exhibitions by brands.

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A brand called LUVX seemed to be the main show here. They had a giant, weird booth in the middle of the whole exhibition hall and are actually pretty well-known among younger Koreans, considering the fact that I’ve seen their designs before, and I’m usually the last person to know about new hot Korean brands that idols are seen wearing.

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Walking around on my favorite dirty old pair of Skechers, I saw some designs (and people) that I really liked.

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(She caught my eye because she was tan, unlike most Korean fashion-conscious people these days (everyone here dotes on the classic pale Asian face), and because she had mint-blue highlights on the hair beneath her ears.

“So you’re here all day?”

“Yeah, you can take shifts but I don’t have a partner here so I’ve taken care of this booth each day, all day.”

“Isn’t it hard?”

“It’s doable. But don’t take pictures too close up; I haven’t got any makeup on.”)

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(I have no idea what ‘IRONY PORN’ means and, honestly, I really don’t want to find out)

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(model off duty!)

Overall, last Sunday was a glorious day filled with fun, thrill, and awe…which left me with sore feet and utter exhaustion (I’m usually a total insomniac but I fell straight asleep after coming home from Korea Style week), but that’s okay because it was a meaningful experience, both in terms of my fashion career and my life as a whole.

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And speaking of my fashion career, I’ve started working on my eBay partnership this week!

Wouldn’t be possible without you readers. I love you!

Interview with Lenox Tillman from America’s Next Top Model!

Hey readers,

I’ve picked up a new habit of doing, not saying. As the Tyra Banks(a major role model of mine) once said, “Don’t make excuses, make improvements.” Which is why, as I was watching America’s Next Top Model(ANTM) last week, I thought, “What’s stopping me from getting closer to pursuing my lifelong dream in fashion?” All the contestants on ANTM seemed to be making their way through rubble to achieve their dreams(heck, they walk down buildings and pose mid-air and walk practically naked down a runway full of strangers just to prove they’ve got what it takes). ANTM is a perfect embodiment of the bittersweet glory of reaching out toward a dream in fashion. The ANTM theme tune goes, ‘Wanna be on top?’ And this time I immediately think, “Hell yeah?!” And what did I do next? Reach out to ANTM, of course.

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(Tyra Banks and Lenox Tillman)

So here I am, a week later, with an interview with the smart, talented, and beautiful 19 year old Lenox Tillman from ANTM Cycle 21(the current cycle that’s currently airing). She’s one of the most talented contestants on the show right now, and it’s unbelievable that she started out as just a sweet, quiet small-town girl. Now she’s just rockin’ the whole competition with her amazing photos. We talked about what it’s like to be on ANTM(obviously!), working with Tyra Banks(gosh I can’t even), modelling in front of the judges, hardships, and some personal stuff.

You can watch Lenox and the other remaining ANTM contestants on the CW. Wonder who will win…(http://www.cwtv.com/shows/americas-next-top-model/)

Now without further ado, here’s my exclusive interview with Lenox! Enjoy! : )

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Keep up with Lenox! (FACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM/TWITTER)

1. Tell us a bit about your childhood. What were you like at school?

I was a pretty shy but active kid. I played softball all of my childhood and was almost always outside if I wasn’t sleeping. In school, I would tend to be the quiet and weird kid to everyone and I definitely wasn’t the most confident. I usually was just drawing and kept close to my small group of close friends.

Haha, I can definitely relate to this.

2. What/who inspired you to run for ANTM at first? 

I always said I would try out for the show once I was 18 because I was such a huge fan of it, but once I actually turned 18 I felt like it was unrealistic to think I could get on! It was actually my mom who saw an ad for a casting call and talked me into going and trying. So I guess my mom was the one who inspired me!

3. Have you watched the episodes released so far? The other contestants talked on screen about how they thought that your ultimate weakness was your lack of self-confidence. How do you feel about that?

Yes, I have seen all of the episodes. I love watching it just like I did with all of the other cycles but me being on it now makes it even cooler, I have to admit. Haha! As for the lack of self-confidence comments, I wasn’t surprised by that when I heard them. I think they’re right, and while I think I’ve come a long way with being okay in who I am, I still am super tough on myself. This competition definitely brought that out in me, too.

You’re only two years older than me but you’re so much wiser! 

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4. What was trying to model when you had to act “sexy” like?

It was awkward since I had a giant crowd of people watching, but I did my best and tried to laugh at myself throughout it since I wanted to be a good sport. I’m working on it!

5. What’s going through your mind when you’re modeling in front of the camera? Is it nerve-racking or does it make you more confident? Have you gotten used to it?

When I first started modeling I was absolutely terrified during shoots because everything was so foreign to me. I have gotten so much better since then, though. I now tend to just be constantly brainstorming from the moment I walk on set to the moment I walk off. I am much more comfortable with it and just try my best to see it as an art experiment that photographer, makeup artist, stylist, and I are doing together.

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6. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?

Eat an onion.

7. Who’s your ultimate role model?

In my modeling career? Lindsey Wixson. In overall life? I have so many; I would say Jill Bolte Taylor, Stevie Nicks, and Florence Welch if I had to narrow it down.

8. Tell us something no one (referring to the general public) knows about you.

Hmmmm, I can lick my elbow! It is said to be impossible but I can do it!

Cool!

 

9. What are your plans for the future?

I plan on growing up and working hard at whatever I am doing, mostly. Hopefully, I can continue modeling and enjoy all of its adventures for as long as I can. One day I hope to own my own avian rehabilitation center or sanctuary, too. That would be amazing.

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(Lenox with Cory from Cycle 20!)

10. If, in the future, your child wanted to become a model and follow in your footsteps, would you tell her/him to go for it?

I want my kids to do whatever makes them happy. If modeling is what makes them happy then I will gladly encourage and support them.

That was such a flawless response, haha.

11. Are you a feminist?

Yeah, duh. Equality between men and women is awesome. Men are cool and women are cool, that is obvious.

12. What’s it like to stand in front of the ANTM judges at panel? What was is like to work with Tyra Banks?

It is terrifying! All of your hard work from that week is about to pay off or be thrown in your face and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. As for Tyra, she is a great business woman and I really enjoyed getting to see that behind the scenes. I hope I can learn to juggle that well- haha!

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Lenox is just amazing. Inside and out.

I’ll be back soon with more : )

Here’s a huge thank you to ANTM’s publicity manager Ellen who helped me reach out to Lenox, and of course thank you to Lenox herself for giving such thoughtful answers(and being awesome).

The ‘Our Wedding’ event in a Korean royal palace

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I took part in creating the 2018 Hanbok Culture Week event as a member of the Korean Royal Costume Research Institute. The event was sponsored by the Ministry of Culture, Sports, and Tourism.

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Hanbok is the name for Korean traditional clothing. Each piece is colorful and beautiful. Some of the people I worked with were worried that the new generation in Korea is shunning traditional hanbok in change for more westernized, trendy versions of hanbok-style clothes, and thinking of them as real hanbok. I could understand both sides of the issue, but as a young Korean I think it’s just inevitable that we try to make things hip and cool, even if it does mean tainting the original a bit. I guess it’s simply a cultural shift. If it contributes to greater interest in hanbok domestically and internationally then I think I’m cool with the ‘new hanbok’ styles.

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It was a lot of work, but teamwork wins at the end of the day! Everyone was so professional, especially the seamstress experts who would fix any hem, loose string, or wrinkled cloth on all the costumes.

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It’s such an honor to have been able to participate in the creation of an official hanbok event like this, and I hope to be involved in the further promotion of Korean traditional hanbok in the future, too.

What if you’re not good enough?

I need to stop being so apologetic about myself. I feel so sorry for myself, sorry that my waist isn’t as thin as I’d like it to be; sorry that I can’t see or even contact my boyfriend because he’s away for most of the time(I see him about 4 days a month); sorry that I’m lazy; sorry that all my high school friends are off doing their own thing now. As if I’m the most sorry girl in the world.

Being sorry about everything automatically puts me in the submissive and takes the grounds for my confidence away. It squeezes the zeal out of you and slows you down.

That’s exactly what’s happening to me right now. Exams have just ended(my first uni exams!) and it’s time to get back on track with my upbeat, hectic life. I have people to meet, business to do, stories to write, studying, and myself to take care of. Yet thinking about all the things I need to start doing kind of puts me off from doing them. Yes, it’s probably partly because I’m a lazy bum, but a thread of thought that keeps winding around my brain is ‘What if you’re not good enough?’

“What if you’re not good enough?”

I knew, from the moment I decided to take the route of fashion as an under-experienced, prep-school student surrounded by prep-school friends who pursued lives indulged in studies, politics, or law, that the path I had begun to stroll along was going to be anything but easy and stable.

I know that some people still don’t approve. Whenever I hear about people that know me talk about my blog or my efforts as ‘asking for attention’, I think, ‘well… technically I am asking for attention, but the right attention’. I write (almost; sometimes I just don’t give a shit, I need to let out what’s on my mind and that’s all) every single post hoping that someone out there, in the fashion industry or outside of it, will be able to resonate with what I’ve written or at least feel something. I hope that it catches someone’s eye and maybe that someone will view fashion in a different light than they used to before.

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(Being free. Denim, red, and flowery patterns. Took this two years ago.)

Business itself isn’t a virtue, but I believe it can be a tool to get to bigger things. I need to get myself back on track. I need to work on my eBay affiliate work and business, but mostly I need to focus on being a creator; thinking in depth again and expressing, rather than pushing down, my emotions. Guess this post is a start to a new term : )

 

Wearing Your Style And Yourself With Confidence

To devote yourself to fashion, you have to be able to devote yourself to wearing yourself loud and proud. Confidence in the things you wear and believe are just two parts of confidence in yourself. So how do you live being able to wear whatever you want and believe what you want?

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Don’t judge

Judging is something you’ve already heard about at length. Judgement is a healthy part of how humans navigate danger but modern society is so full of conflicting tastes and ideas that we do it to the extreme. Take a breath and bite your tongue when you think of judging other people. Creating an environment for you to be confident in is the same as creating that environment that does the same for others.

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Wear it proud

The first step to being confident enough to fashion yourself however you want is… wait for it, fashion yourself however you want. That might sound counter-intuitive but it’s a self-feeding loop. Support your beliefs and make your statement, from lip rings to bindis to marine corps hats. Start wearing your identity and you’ll become more comfortable in it. The more comfortable, the less you’ll care about others opinions.

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What is self-confidence?

Self-confidence is a key to being free to do what you want in life. We’re so full of anxieties and unresolved questions that seem to never go away. You need to be able to cut right past them and be confident enough to be yourself despite your worries, not instead of them. Taking care of yourself is key to your self-confidence, too.

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Be aware

We all have a rippling effect on the world around us and our fashion is just a part of that. Be aware of the effects your choices have. Fashion is just another part of the trends that make up the zeitgeist and they do say things about us. Know the kind of impact that fashion has on society. That can give you the confidence to know that your beliefs and choices might have their own positive impacts.

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Cut the negative

A lot of our self-depreciation comes from little inside voices. We are always our harshest critic. But that doesn’t mean that we don’t have our real living and breathing critics. Some of them even disguise themselves are our friends. There’s nothing more harmful to your own growth and self-belief than a toxic friend. A friend who wants to drag you down. Break free of toxic relationships if you want to make that inside voice a little quieter, too.

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Take time for the positive

Those little voices can cut in with all kinds of intrusive thoughts. So how do you shut them out? Getting rid of those negative people is one step. Surrounding yourself with positive people is the next. You need to do things and be with people that make you smile. Most importantly, you need to do the same with your thoughts. Even if it feels false at first, start rephrasing your thoughts after you think them to be more positive. Real self-confidence will follow if you keep it up.

My shameless selfies & Interview with the’Instacollage’ team

Photos are reality and reality is just photos… says our generation. #sodeep#notbasic

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(On the bus)

Hey guys! It’s me Konni again(obviously) and I’m sitting around as usual, taking shameless, superficial selfies. But today I’ve brought to you something that isn’t usual at all too-here’s a rare opportunity: getting to talk to the masterminds behind a popular smartphone app.

Being a wannabe techno-geek myself, I got talking with Alex from ‘Team Instacollage’.

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K: Hey Alex! First things first- why did you develop the app in the first place?

A: Thank you Konni for crediting me as being the developer of InstaCollage ;). But, I am not the real developer of InstaCollage. It was developed by my friend, Lavi, about an year and five months ago, who is a passionate android developer and a great one. He developed this app during his college time, but there was no real reason to develop it. I joined him six months ago to turn InstaCollage into a business, which does not suffice with just collage making. So, right now, we are porting this android app to iPhone, which we are planning to release within 2 months.

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(But first-Lemmetakeaselfie! Used to be obsessed with that song by The Chainsmokers. Oh and my phone camera sucks(as you can see in photo above) so bear with me. This photo is from my high school graduation day when I was caked with makeup : )

K: Cool. Tell us a bit about your app.

A: InstaCollage, as the name says, it’s a Simple Collage Making App on Android. I do really mean it “Simple”. The app has pure Black-and-White interface designed to let you focus on the most important thing while making a Collage, i.e. your photos.

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K: Ooh. So that’s what differentiates you guys from other photo collage apps out there.

A: Yeah, existing collage apps miss this most important part. InstaCollage is packed with photo editing tools too, like Photo Filters, Photo Frames and Backgrounds, the option to add text to turn it into a collage story. We are also working on stickers which will be released within a week. Apart from just providing these features, the app provides smooth and fast interface to create collages.

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K: What type of grids do you have on your app? I’m not a huge Instagram fan but I definitely do need a trusty collage app for my Kakao Talk(guys, this is a huge chatting app in Korea) profile pics.

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(I took this photo today, a moment ago, before I took my shower(I still have a towel on my head, I never got into the habit of actually using a hair dryer). I lost a bit of weight recently-probably because I’ve been busy working.)

A: Well, by using InstaCollage, you will find that you can create only square collage grids, and we are not looking to remove this restriction. But we will add “Free Style Collages” as a separate feature in InstaCollage by the end of February. I request you to install it on your android device and experience it yourself, as that matters a lot for us. You can simply install it from here: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.photos.instacollage

K: Thanks, Alex. Okay, now I need to know how it’s being run. So that I can, you know, take some superficial selfies.

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(Like this one)

A: I hope by saying “how it’s being run”, you want to know, how app actually works. Follow these Steps:

– Choose a layout and then select the required number of photos, and in the end, user is taken to collage editing screen.
– or Choose few photos, then you will be directly taken to collage editing screen, where a random layout is shown and you do have the options to change layout while editing your collage.

K: Thank you so much for introducing us to your app, Alex! This is all for now but be sure to type in ‘instacollage’ on your Google Play Store if you have Android because WHO DOESN’T NEED A GOOD PHOTO COLLAGE APP IN THIS DAY AND TIME, Y’ALL. Especially in fashion-I often find that fashion is in-the-moment, but it’s the photos that last.

Hope you guys had fun making fun of my selfies XD

 

How to make fashion choices you’ll never regret

Most people youll meet had an awkward phase in personal fashion. Whether it took the form of following an ill-advised EDM fad, or going through a goth phase doesnt matter. What does matter is that the vast majority of people never want to make fashion choices theyll regret ever again, and learning how to do that can be hard if you dont have the right guidance. Lucky for you, weve come up with a quick guide to perennially awesome fashion choices, so you dont have to. Here are the safest choices you can make in any situation.

  • A Little Black Dress The LBD has been a staple in just about every major fashion designers closet for at least 40 years, and what we really love about this fashion option is that theres a black dress for every person and every budget. If you dont want to spend too much, but still want to get a good one, wed suggest browsing Stelly dresses.

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  • A Pair Of WellFitted Jeans, A Slinky Top, And Heels For most women, this is the perfect go-to option for casual dating or just going out and about. Its casual, carefree, and always looks put-together.

  • A Tennis Dress – Tennis dresses are a great pick for a multitude of different occasions. They work beautifully at brunch, are ideal for a walk through nature, can be dressed up for a night out on the club, and can even be used in workplace settings in certain occasions. In other words, its a great choice that can show your femininity in a snap!

  • Leggings, A Tank Top, And A Cute Leather Jacket – Somehow, this ensemble always seems to make everyone look a bit slimmer. Its old schoolenough to make it timeless, yet still modern enough to avoid looking anachronistic.

  • Black Slacks And A Black Sweater – If theres one outfit which is most regularly worn by those who work in the fashion industry, its this dynamic duo. Though it always looks chic, its one of the lowest maintenance outfits you can have. The key to making this look absolutely stunning is to choose a sweater that wont change shape, and doesnt look frumpy so choose wisely.

  • Leggings And An Oversized Shirt – This is an unusually flattering look for many of us. If you need a quick casual yet urban look, this duo will make for an absolutely effortless statement.

  • A Beautiful Maxi Dress – Maxi dresses are the best possible choice for a day out on the beach, and they have the added bonus of being able to be dressed up to the point of being acceptable restaurant wear. With the right accessories and the perfect pair of sandals, a maxi dress can be one of the most important staples in a summer wardrobe.

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  • A Waist Length Midi Skirt And A Form-Fitting Top This duo is quite a rare find on people who are doing their day to day business, but the fact is that its still an incredibly feminine, sophisticated, and elegant combination that fashion experts extol. If your style is Euro-chic, then this is a duo that you will want to keep at close reach.

If you ask most fashion experts, the best way to make sure that you choose amazing ensembles time after time is to shop for items that actually suit you. Truth be told, even these current “no regrets” options might fall out of style in the future, but if you are able to rock it, the fact is that you still wont regret having worn it when push comes to shove.

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Author Bio: A fashion afficianado, Regina empowers women through her writing and fitness tips. If shes not walking her dog, you can catch her surfing the web for whats new at Stelly.

 

What to wear to a sports game

Hey guys,

I realize that I haven’t done a simple fashion post in a while. I’ve been so focused on fashion school and work that ironically, I haven’t been able to indulge in the pleasure of talking to you guys about my favorite thing, fashion.

While I don’t enjoy telling people what they should wear (don’t get me wrong- I love dressing people up, I just feel that I shouldn’t rampage over other people’s personal style), I am hopeless when I start talking about what I want to wear. It’s like my mouth has gone full motor. No stopping this girl when she starts talking about her clothes.

And I make a lot of fashion choices in life, as we all (consciously or subconsciously) do. Every day I coordinate everything from my bra and panties to my clothes to my socks and to my hair, makeup, and jewelry. (If you ever see me, just know that any garment or even streak of eyeliner on me has had at least a few seconds of thought put into it.) What I wear usually depends on what I am doing that day, where I am going, or plainly how I feel.

Today I want to talk about what I would put on to go to a sports game. To be honest, I rarely go to watch games, especially not baseball. But I do sometimes go to watch football(I mean soccer. I lived in London so bear my British.), and every time I find myself standing in front of my wardrobe asking myself the same questions: ‘Does this look sporty enough?’ ‘Would this outfit shield me from the football possibly flying my way and hitting me in the face?’ ‘Does this look too fan-girly?’

Well, as a proper fashion student, I did my work and came up with some outfits to wear to my next sports match, which is unfortunately not the Super Bowl since I’m in Seoul. BUT you’re free to make these outfits your own if you are lucky enough to go watch the Super Bowl. : ) Just come back after and tell me how the game was. If you’re in need of tickets to a sporting event you can check out TickPick. They’re a no-fee marketplace that offers NFL tickets, along with tickets to other sporting events, concerts and more!

#1. The all-out fangirl

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I once did a post about this look. This is my friend Jiyeon in a soccer outfit and red sneakers. I mean, why not just go to the game looking like your favorite player? Complete with red inflatable sticks to cheer your team on-I love that they match the sneakers, by the way- this is probably the equivalent of me dressed up as Harry Potter at the bookstore on the night of the release of a new book(which I actually did for ‘Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince’, in London). So yeah, I understand how it feels to be passionate, baby. Also, I just love the color coordination going on here. The deep turquoise-ish blue, the white, the bright red, and the green in the background-wonderful splash of colors.

 

#2. All black chic

 

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I actually really like this photo that I took. I know Anna Wintour would disapprove of this outfit(“Not feeling for any color, are we?” she might say) but I think it looks perfectly fine for a day out with friends at a football game. And a man to man tee shirt with a little wool on the inside is not only comfy but also warm, especially since it’s still quite chilly outside. The stars on the sleeves could maybe be replaced with your team name or team symbol. I also think legging-style skinny pants add to the total comfort of this game day outfit, complete with a Samsung phone in hand (gotta take pics at the game, duh). I guess the makeup could have been a little stronger(team colors, maybe) but I just went for the natural look here on my sister and fastened her hair with a hair clip.

If you’re not into looking too enthusiastic at the game or are just a naturally very chic human being(like I pretend to be but fail), I’d recommend this look.

#3. The ‘I-kinda-dressed-up-for-this’

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This is what I’d wear to a game if it were a date. First of all, before anything, I love having flannel shirts draped around my hips and thighs. It just makes me feel cool and all hipster whenever the ends flop around when I walk. (Oh stop judging, we all know how fashion can make us feel.) The hair is another big YES for me because, since I was a kid, I’ve always been into Bohemian-style, braided, wavy hair. The sweater on top is simple but not boring, and the socks are a nice touch to the whole outfit. I feel like this is the outfit that says, ‘I’m not too into sports but I’m here anyways coz I’m that cool and, oh, also stylish.’